It’s been almost a month since you made that New Year Resolution promise to yourself “I am going to quit smoking this year” or “I am going to stop eating chocolate” or “I am going to find a new job”.
So what happened? Maybe you enjoy smoking too much, after all you don’t smoke much and you only drink now and again… you have to have some vices, right?
As for the chocolate you really don’t eat that much and we all need an extra boost in the afternoon… yeah right!
What about the career change? “It’s best to stick to what you know, right?!”
“Why take risks?”; “Who am I kidding?”; What makes me think I can be different?”; “My dad was right, go into a safe profession and stay there”. All excuses we use for not achieving our stated goals.
Are you one of the people who despair of ever sticking to those resolutions?
The truth is we can make changes any time we choose. Not just at the beginning of the year. But notice I say ‘choose’.
One thing I have realised over the last few years is that almost everything we do is a choice. Some of these choices are conscious and many are unconscious.
We are making choices every day of our lives. What to eat, where to eat, what to wear and what not to wear. We even choose whether or not we go to work each day. Then there is the choice of who we spend our time with.
Choice, of course, does have its drawbacks, too many can create inner conflicts and anxiety. We even have choice about choice… try and get your head around that one.
So here is what I am getting at:
Don’t tell yourself “I will stop smoking or “I will quit junk food” because you will probably find a part of you inside is yelling “WHO ARE YOU KIDDING!”
When you say “I choose to quit smoking” or “I choose to eat healthier foods” you notice an amazing sense of self-empowerment. You find when you stop trying to order your subconscious mind around the pressure disappears; you start taking control and you begin to succeed at creating those desirable changes in your life.
Let me demonstrate: if, for example, you want to quit smoking say to yourself now
“I will stop smoking”… notice how you feel…
Now say to yourself
“I choose to be a non smoker”… notice how you feel…
Sense the difference?
WHAT IS YOUR DESIRE?
If there is a real secret to achieving personal change it is having the DESIRE to change. Without desire you are beaten before you even start. There is a huge difference between thinking you should do something and wanting to do something.
Even if you want to achieve something i. e. lose thirty pounds of fat; develop more self-confidence or become a millionaire are you prepared to do what it takes? Maybe not.
For the small percentage of people who are, the rewards are high. A move to better health, happiness and success is what they can expect.
The point is why wait for a New Year to come around to make a resolution? Simply choose your desired change, focus on the end result and just do it now!